I watched with great interest as these two simple words were repeated millions of times across various social media outlets bringing awareness to the pervasive issue of sexual harassment and misconduct. And though it would be far easier to suggest that this is a problem isolated to the halls and walls of Hollywood, this is not just about Harvey Weinstein. It is about an insidious and pervasive culture of abuse, assault and harassment rooted in power and privilege.
As I observed the unfolding of what has become a call to action, I ached to add my voice to the chorus and cry, but weighed down by fear, I sat silent. I was more comfortable holding my breath, bowing my head and muting my voice in favor of complacency.
Complacency is safe, but as I continued to read about the varied experiences of women, my soul was stirred with the realization that we live in a world of widely accepted objectification. There are varying degrees of harassment most certainly, but it is an inescapable, inexcusable reality, and as I worked to still my hands from their contribution to the movement, I was overcome with the enormity of it all.
There is strength in numbers. And today I raise my hand in solidarity, though there is little to gain and much to risk. Because this is our story and we must do better for women everywhere.
I am a woman in ministry, one of many, whose mission is one of love and inclusivity. We are fighting human trafficking, offering pastoral care and counseling, building hope and participating in the back breaking work of transformation. We are working to open the doors of silence, shame, poverty and despair and we are seeking to right the wrongs of injustice and power in the communities in which we serve. But this faith in action does not make us immune to the gradient of power that lends itself to harassment, bullying, manipulation and coercion. For all of the social justice against which we rail, we must also collectively reject it in our institutions and church halls.
I am thankful that the gender harassment that I have experienced is fairly mild on a continuum that includes sexual assault and rape, but the stark visual assertions on social media are horrifying and heartbreaking, and we can either chose to move with God in mercy, humility and justice, or we can bathe injustice and the abuse of power in biblical language.
For women in ministry, the challenge is in establishing credibility in a culture that is profoundly conflicted about the validity of women in authority. There is an enormous amount of work to be done in this regard, because a world in which women are belittled, undermined and abused is not God’s desire for His children.
The Creator has fully invited each of us to participate in His work in this world, and while culture and climate might serve to restrict women from the fullness of calling, I know that in Jesus’ world, women lead. He was not threatened that His masculinity would be called into question if he admitted that there was value to be gained in giving women a seat at the table. He did not employ veiled comments and sarcasm when speaking with them. There was no flattery or condescension, no patronizing discussion of the value of femininity. Nowhere in Scripture is a woman called to be weak. They displayed courage, endured hardship and overcame insurmountable odds.
I look forward to the day when women with leadership and insight, gifts and talents, callings and capabilities are called out and celebrated rather than silenced and stifled. I long for the day when the language utilized for strong women is absent of words like aggressive, bossy and difficult in contrast with those assigned to her male counterparts who are deemed assertive, strong and decisive leaders. And I will look to a day when a leader is simply a leader.
Women’s ministry is more than a sheltered little church group for ladies. We have been called to participate, in whatever manner we have been equipped, to engage fully in the redemption, restoration and renewal of the women of the world. We have so much more to offer the church than just table decorations and baked goods.
And so to the men around the table, it is about you as well. It is time for you to support the work of changing practices and behaviors. There is no axe to grind nor is there any male dignity to defend, there is simply justice, oceans and rivers of justice.
And yes, for the record, “Me too”, because there is much left to do.
“I can’t stand your religious meetings.
I’m fed up with your conferences and conventions.
I want nothing to do with your religion projects,
Your pretentious slogans and goals.
I’m sick of your fundraising schemes, your public relations and image making.
I’ve had all I can take of your noisy ego-music.
When was the last time you sang to me?
Do you know what I want?
I want justice – oceans of it.
I want fairness – rivers of it.
That’s what I want. That’s all I want.”
~ Amos 5:21-24